[SATLUG] [OT] - Anyone know of a good DR?

[Brad Knowles]

On 11/15/07, Brian Lewis wrote:

>  The kicker is that we got into a 4 hour argument earlier in the night
>  which ended in her saying she wishes she were with my father, who died
>  about 2 1/2 months ago. :((

There are a lot of things that we sometimes say or do (or don't say 
or do), and then something happens to make us really regret that.


I really regret that I didn't call my mom during the time that turned 
out to be the last three weeks of her life.  The last I heard, she 
was doing well, her oncologist was talking about her being his next 
patient to make it to the three year mark with her extremely 
aggressive form of cancer (initial prognosis was two to ten weeks, 
and she made it just past two years), and I guess I wasn't too 
worried.

I got the call from my Dad at 8:45am on October 9th of this year (a 
month and four days ago), saying that she had thrown up blood the 
night before, they had taken her to the hospital, and she was now in 
the process of having the blood pumped out of her stomach and she was 
giving them a real fight and kept pulling the tube out of her mouth, 
and that I might want to consider thinking about starting to make 
some arrangements to come back home.  I made some calls to the 
hospital to get a more complete picture of what was really going on, 
I called my two cousins who live in town and usually keep in pretty 
close touch with my parents, and while I was on the phone at 9:45am I 
got a call from the hospital that she'd had a seizure and had already 
died.

I think she knew how much we all loved her, but at no time during 
that three week period of time did I bother to pick up the phone and 
call her, and tell her that I loved her.  And now I'll never be able 
to call her again.


Your mom is still alive, and you've got a chance to heal what could 
have been a long-lasting emotional wound between you and her, and 
maybe resulted in something far worse happening in the future.

I know you've got a lot of pain you've already gone through over 
this, and there will probably be more pain in the future.  But I'd 
still encourage you to see this as a sign, and count your blessings 
that you still have the opportunity to put things right with her.

-- 
Brad Knowles <brad at shub-internet.org>
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