[SATLUG] [OT] - Anyone know of a good DR?
brad at shub-internet.org
Thu Nov 15 00:59:23 CST 2007
On 11/15/07, Brian Lewis wrote:
> The kicker is that we got into a 4 hour argument earlier in the night
> which ended in her saying she wishes she were with my father, who died
> about 2 1/2 months ago. :((
There are a lot of things that we sometimes say or do (or don't say
or do), and then something happens to make us really regret that.
I really regret that I didn't call my mom during the time that turned
out to be the last three weeks of her life. The last I heard, she
was doing well, her oncologist was talking about her being his next
patient to make it to the three year mark with her extremely
aggressive form of cancer (initial prognosis was two to ten weeks,
and she made it just past two years), and I guess I wasn't too
I got the call from my Dad at 8:45am on October 9th of this year (a
month and four days ago), saying that she had thrown up blood the
night before, they had taken her to the hospital, and she was now in
the process of having the blood pumped out of her stomach and she was
giving them a real fight and kept pulling the tube out of her mouth,
and that I might want to consider thinking about starting to make
some arrangements to come back home. I made some calls to the
hospital to get a more complete picture of what was really going on,
I called my two cousins who live in town and usually keep in pretty
close touch with my parents, and while I was on the phone at 9:45am I
got a call from the hospital that she'd had a seizure and had already
I think she knew how much we all loved her, but at no time during
that three week period of time did I bother to pick up the phone and
call her, and tell her that I loved her. And now I'll never be able
to call her again.
Your mom is still alive, and you've got a chance to heal what could
have been a long-lasting emotional wound between you and her, and
maybe resulted in something far worse happening in the future.
I know you've got a lot of pain you've already gone through over
this, and there will probably be more pain in the future. But I'd
still encourage you to see this as a sign, and count your blessings
that you still have the opportunity to put things right with her.
Brad Knowles <brad at shub-internet.org>
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